This is a biggie. Never, ever say this. It’s saying someone of whatever age they’re at are at death’s door or somehow total wrecks. Using the qualifier, “for your anything” is so condescending it hurts. No one wants to be smart for a plumber, or pretty for a politician, or brilliant for a housewife, or in great shape for their age. People simply want to be fit, smart, pretty or brilliant because they are. Instead, say, “You look great.” Genuine compliments don’t need qualifiers.
I could have added more to this list – but I thought these ten were enough to chew on for now. I ask myself how many times do I glibly say things that might tear down instead of build up another person?
I believe the key is discernment. Discernment with genuine thoughtfulness: we can’t go wrong with those two. Add a dose of God’s love and compassion and we’ll make a big difference in our relationships.
Do you have some “never say” phrases you’d like to share? Send them to me here and I”ll post them!